In the “Your Family Village” Podcast, Val Hemminger shares the values she learned from being raised by the Hemminger family, helping to make the world a better place by sharing her parents’ legacy.
Does the “ideal” nuclear family really work? It makes us vulnerable. If we only have like two or three people to live with, confide in, share things with, what happens if we divorce? What happens if our kids leave home? What happens if our spouse dies? How many people do you know who spoke about growing up in their nuclear family as a wonderful experience? How many people do you know who speak of their growing up experiences within their families as traumatic, or sad, or lonely? One of the reasons is because it is a flawed model in the first place.
Humans are biochemically dependent on socializing, and need a village, or a community of people, in order to thrive. And this doesn’t mean social media. While Facebook does help us keep in touch, it’s face-to-face interactions that create the meaningful connections we crave.
We all know how to “make” a family, but what does this mean in the broader sense? Val Hemminger explains how family is not limited to only biological connections. It has to do with the heart.
Listen as Val shares the story of Michael who was adopted by another family, despite being loved by the Hemminger family. Even after many years apart, the strong connection, created by love, never faded.
How do you create the fabric and threads in your life? Imagine that every connection you have with other people is represented by a thread. The threads may be thicker or thinner depending on the person or circumstances, and they all form the fabric of life. The more connections you have, the stronger your fabric.
In this episode, Val Hemminger discusses creating new threads and strengthening those you have already. By making an effort to grow your threads, you’ll feel the fabric of life strengthen and become richer as time goes on.
Please comment and share how you develop connections and “threads” of your own!
After a long workday, it can be tempting to sit indoors watching TV. However, getting out to meet people and make connections is likely much more fulfilling!
Val Hemminger explains that even a simple walk around the neighborhood can lead to new friendships, connections, and quality time with loved ones.
It doesn’t have to be a huge undertaking, just a simple walk will do! Val walks with her daughter, which creates quality time and conversation together that wouldn’t have happened otherwise.
Val issues a challenge to you: get out there and make some connections!
Do you have a set of guidelines for living? If so, what are they? If not, let this episode of Growing Up Hemminger serve as inspiration! Val Hemminger shares her top 12 guidelines for living. These include everything from forgiveness practice to keeping a clean home.
Please leave a comment and share some of your own!
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Val has been focusing on the positive aspects of human connections and spending time with others, but today delves into some of the opposites. Sometimes people can irritate each other! It’s normal for this to happen, but always remember to cherish the moments and memories. Val shares some stories about parties and family gatherings that may not have been perfect at the time, but that doesn’t mean there are no benefits to take away.
By definition, the word “sober” sounds boring. Since we generally use the word sober as relating to alcohol, does that mean anybody who doesn’t drink is boring? Of course not. Val reframes the idea of “sober” and explains why we aren’t necessarily sober simply because we don’t drink or use other substances.
For the second part of this episode, Val discusses fostering community connections. When searching for a place to live, it’s common to admire a home for its beautiful flooring and spacious kitchen, but how about a common area where people can gather? A yard, park, or even neighborhood shared space can allow families and friendships to grow. In order for community connections to develop, we must lay the groundwork.
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It’s easy to brush somebody off as strange, mean, grumpy, or awkward. But, you may be surprised what can actually happen if you get to know such a person.
Val shares a story explaining how she did just this and ended up making a new friend. You benefit by bringing others into your world, and by being part of theirs. Plus, being kind and authentic is enjoyable!
There are actions you can take to help form connections and create more time with loved ones, whether it’s a family game night or a camping trip. Camping seems like it may be a hassle and so far from the comforts of home, but there’s a big reason why most of us enjoy it so much.
What are your suggestions for creating more connections? Please leave a comment!
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Exploring the idea that “it takes a village to raise a child,” Val shares a story from her childhood.
Val was delighted when part of her wardrobe transformed from dorky to cool, thanks to a friend’s mom. However, Val’s own mother was not so impressed.
In the end, neither Val or her mom won the war of the shorts, but we learn a great lesson on the importance of community and neighbors, as opposed to being limited to the nuclear family.
How do we create community now, when we have so much less opportunity? Leave a comment below with your thoughts!
Our ancestors thrived by being in groups and tribes. Val discusses the benefits of this, why we shouldn’t be limited to just the nuclear family, how we can emulate how our ancestors lived, and how the Hemmingers did just that. With most households having two working parents, busier than ever, it’s a recipe for frayed nerves and exhaustion, so shouldn’t we have some help? There’s truth in the saying “it takes a village to raise a child.”
Val also share’s an inspiring story about the “ideal” divorce when children are involved. It may be a difficult and painful situation, but each parent needs to put their differences aside for the sake of the child. Competition and fighting between parents is not ideal, but the opposite, a supportive and harmonious environment, will allow the child to flourish.
Val Hemminger creates business, life, projects, and friendships that make our world a better place.