In the “Your Family Village”  Podcast, Val Hemminger shares the values she learned from being raised by the Hemminger family, helping to make the world a better place by sharing her parents’ legacy.

018 – Embrace Relying Upon Others

We need interconnectedness to thrive and do well in life. When Val once had a Tarot reading, she was told that her success and happiness in life would depend on her working with others and giving to others.

 

At the time, Val felt a sense of shame or embarrassment that she would need to have help from others. We have a culture that teaches us to be independent, but this may not be the best thing for us.

 

Val now realizes now that it’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s what we all need. Working together and having connections in life is important for each and every one of us.

 

Links:

 

Big Potential by Shawn Achor

 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger’s Free eBook

017 – When Your Life Unexpectedly Falls Apart – How One Single Parent Created Her Extended Family and Village


Life doesn’t always go as planned. Candy is a superstar legal assistant at Hemminger Law Group Westshore who unexpectedly became a single parent.

Despite having a partner and a plan when she became pregnant, the partner left Candy to have the child as a single parent, pulling the carpet out from under her.

While this was devastating and brought a wave of challenges, it hasn’t stopped Candy from doing what’s needed to create a rich and satisfying life for both her and her child.

Candy and her ex-partner have even been able to do things together as a family, for the sake of the child, even though each parent lives in a different home and there is no romantic relationship.

Links:

WorkLink – WorkBC Employment Services Centre

 

016 – Gezelligheid: Creating Happy The European Way

“The greatest ingredient for human happiness is being with other people.”

Gezelligheid is a Dutch word that relates to the heart. It encompasses the heart of Dutch culture. Val is currently visiting Haarlem in the Netherlands and experiencing Gezelligheid first-hand. It’s the effort people make to make others feel comfy, cozy and wanting to stay. It’s a lot like Hygge, but more social.

The concept is more about a feeling, rather than words to describe it. In this episode, Val talks about her experience with Gezelligheid and how we can apply it to our lives in North America.

Links:

How to say Gezelligheid

Gezelligheid vs Hygge

Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking

Jopenkerk Pub

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015 – The Hygge Life: How To Create A Family

In the last episode, you heard about the concept of Hygge. Hygge originates in Denmark, and relates to being cozy, connected, and to paying attention to the little comforts life has to offer.

 

Today, we explore the idea further, specifically how you can use Hygge to create community and family connections that will help you thrive.

 

Hygge helps us provide a cultural framework, or canvas, upon which we can develop the Hygge personal experiences.

Danes don’t expect Hygge to come to them. They create it. They create it purposefully and do so consciously. Like everything that matters, there is an effort involved, and it is a priority. They do this with their relationships also. Using Hygge they purposefully create their relationships.

 

Links:

Iben Sandahl The Danish Way of Parenting

Sandahl being interviewed for How To Be Married

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships: Val Hemminger’s Free eBook

014 – Creating the Hygge Life

You can read my blog about Creating The Hygge Life here!

What do comfy sweaters, candles, book clubs, and fall camping have in common? If you can’t quite put your finger on the word, maybe it’s because you’ve never heard it before! The answer is Hygge. Hygge is the Scandinavian word for a mood of coziness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment. It has become a defining characteristic of Danish culture. Since the Danes remain some of the happiest people in the world, it’s worth taking a look at hygge, which is thought to be one of the big reasons for their life satisfaction.

Book: The Hygge Life: Embracing the Nordic Art of Coziness

Homemade Hot Chocolate Recipe:

Heat up milk and don’t boil, whisk in other ingredients and then top with whipped cream

  • 4 cups whole milk
  • 10 oz or higher cacao/chocolate
  • 3 T unsalted butter
  • pinch salt
  • whipped cream

013 – It Is Worth It To Create Those Threads

Making human connections and being connected to others is important for our health and happiness. Sometimes, making these connections is hard and challenging, requiring us to put ourselves out there.

In this episode, Val explains why it’s worth it to make this effort, how much her life has been enriched by making connections, and examples of things you can do to make these connections with other people.

012 – The Nuclear Family Sucks… And What We Can Do About it

Does the “ideal” nuclear family really work? It makes us vulnerable. If we only have like two or three people to live with, confide in, share things with, what happens if we divorce? What happens if our kids leave home? What happens if our spouse dies? How many people do you know who spoke about growing up in their nuclear family as a wonderful experience? How many people do you know who speak of their growing up experiences within their families as traumatic, or sad, or lonely? One of the reasons is because it is a flawed model in the first place.

Humans are biochemically dependent on socializing, and need a village, or a community of people, in order to thrive. And this doesn’t mean social media. While Facebook does help us keep in touch, it’s face-to-face interactions that create the meaningful connections we crave.

Read my blog post called I’m Calling Out The Nuclear Family.

Book: The Village Effect – Susan Pinker

011 – Mom’s Dying Gift – Our Long-Lost Foster Brother, Michael, After More Than 40 Years

We all know how to “make” a family, but what does this mean in the broader sense? Val Hemminger explains how family is not limited to only biological connections. It has to do with the heart.

Listen as Val shares the story of Michael who was adopted by another family, despite being loved by the Hemminger family. Even after many years apart, the strong connection, created by love, never faded.

010 – Are There Holes in Your Sweater? How to Strengthen the Fabric of Our Relationships

How do you create the fabric and threads in your life? Imagine that every connection you have with other people is represented by a thread. The threads may be thicker or thinner depending on the person or circumstances, and they all form the fabric of life. The more connections you have, the stronger your fabric.

In this episode, Val Hemminger discusses creating new threads and strengthening those you have already. By making an effort to grow your threads, you’ll feel the fabric of life strengthen and become richer as time goes on.

Please comment and share how you develop connections and “threads” of your own!

009 – Taking A Stroll With Our Kids, Connecting Without Even Realizing It

After a long workday, it can be tempting to sit indoors watching TV. However, getting out to meet people and make connections is likely much more fulfilling!

Val Hemminger explains that even a simple walk around the neighborhood can lead to new friendships, connections, and quality time with loved ones.

It doesn’t have to be a huge undertaking, just a simple walk will do! Val walks with her daughter, which creates quality time and conversation together that wouldn’t have happened otherwise.

Val issues a challenge to you: get out there and make some connections!