Learn To Connect More With Those You Love
Have more face to face real human contact with your family
This is Val Hemminger.
Are you finding your kids don’t need you as much as they used to?
Do you spend time connecting with others on Facebook and at the same time still feel disconnected and lonely, even within your own home? You have feelings of being isolated even though you live with others?
Are you also realizing how it is so easy nowadays to get caught up looking at your phone rather than your people’s faces?
Here is the amazing thing I have learned and wanted to share with you. When we change our focus and attention from our phones and tablets to the faces of the people we live with, our whole family, including us Moms, becomes happier and healthier.
Our ancestors thrived because they lived in extended family groups, tribes, and communities. Our ancestors did not live in small, individual, little nuclear family pods as we do.
Why create and develop our relationships and family village? Because the studies show that we are social creatures. Connecting to others makes us healthier. It makes us happier. And it gives life more meaning.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I get totally overwhelmed with life’s pressures. I arrive home from work tired and spent. Rather than make an effort to connect with those I live with, I numb myself out by scrolling through social media posts or by binge-watching a Netflix series. I go to bed exhausted only to turn around and do it all over again the next day. And then the next. Sometimes I feel like I go days and days without having a real conversation with my husband or an actual meaningful conversation with my daughter.
My busy life led me to live in a family in which I felt increasingly lonely. I could not even begin to compete with the digital screens that glowed into the faces of my loved ones.
I felt deep shame about this. I came from a totally loving family, and yet I had lost the skill of connecting with my daughter, husband, and stepdaughters.
Finally, I decided that I was not going to let the excuse of being tired from my day job interfere with my relationships. I started doing what I learned as a child, I started creating and growing the connections within my family, to extend who my “family” is, and to grow what I like to refer as my “family village”.
I want to help you connect with those you live with and love. I am here to help you create your relationships within your own home and to help you create your own extended family and village.
More of my home background:
I was adopted and raised by Elma and Julius Hemminger, outstanding and loving human who taught me the power and force of creating our own extended families and friendships based on love rather than being limited to biological family.
Born in 1967, I was raised by loving parents who always had and made time for us. Elma and Julius Hemminger had a very inclusive and expansive definition of family. I was a foster child that they decided to keep. The Hemmingers did not have much money but what we did have was a lot of love and some silliness. We played, we drank tea, and we talked to each other.
My Mom, Elma, created a home based upon a belief that it took a village to raise a child. She was the matriarch of her created family village and our home. She taught us that love was the key to everything and I mean everything. (Okay, she also thought Wonder Oil was pretty essential, but that is another story)
All I live and create comes from being a Hemminger. My Mom and Dad left this world a much better place for having lived in it. I am sharing their legacy.
I am hoping to help you grow your own family village.